I am very frustrated. Almost two years ago my father was in intensive care for congestive heart failure. He was moments away from life support. We were told he would probably never leave the hospital. Two weeks later he was released with the option of a skilled nursing facility or home with round the clock care.
The family got together and cleaned up the house, bags of cat pop included, and built new stairs into the house. My wife and I moved upstairs so someone was always home.
We pay for all of his pills, all of the propane in the winter, his internet as well as ours, a le, groceries, house payment, power bill, lawn equipment and upkeep. I am sure there is more but that's enough. Or so I thought.
His SS will not cover his basic expenses but he is increasingly threatening and intimidating because we should be paying more and is always mad I didn't pay Bill's before the due date.
I needed a truck for work and couldn't get a loan so he went with me to cosign. That didn't work so he signed for the truck and I put insurance on it and have never been late on a payment.
Due to his violent nature I said I was moving and he told me I could walk anywhere I want. He spends most of his money on alcohol and taking care of his girlfriend and is always broke before his next check.
He couldn't set out his pills for a day if he had to and I was told "so you set out my pills and took me to the doctor once, whoopi" He is always making snide remarks to my wife who is increasingly agitated as well as scared at times while I am at work.
I have a POA and a medical POA. I am executor of his will. If I leave he will be in ruins in a matter of months. I know he is scared of this but threatening me and yelling at me like I am a child is getting out of hand.
I am 45 years old and am shown zero respect for not only saving his life but keeping him out or a nursing home and or losing everything he owns. What am I supposed to do?
I can not put my wife through this much longer. She deserves better. He came at me a few weeks ago a d it scared her. I am not scared of him but am afraid he will hurt himself or I will have to defend myself. His heart failure was due to alcoholism and he is drinking daily and heavy some days. I need help.