I'm the Granddaughter...
My grandfather is 86, has COPD and complications from diabetes & other ailments. His health has been declining for the past 8 months or so. He is still in his home which has stairs between every 'main' room and he is extremely stubborn, refusing to even use a walker or let me move his TV from the downstairs onto a more accessible level.
I am STUCK! I know my grandfather shouldn't be driving (numb legs & dizziness) and that he doesn't keep enough to eat in the house. I know his depression from loneliness is getting worse.
He tells everyone that he is fine but he really isn't! He takes codeine all day for pain, he can't bend over without losing his breath completely, he can't walk more than a hundred feet without having to sit down, his balance is bad and his personal grooming is getting worse all the time.
I don't want to seem like I don't love my grandfather but I am so angry that I have been left to do this all by myself!!! His two daughters tell me that I just need to back off and let my grandfather live how he wants to live and not worry about it. Neither of them are here in the city and I'm pretty sure they both want him to die so that they can have their inheritance. :(
It's ugly and heart wrenching.. I feel so trapped in the middle of all of this.