I'm So Done With This!!!!!!

by Grieving Son
(Ky)

My 47 year old brother died suddenly 9 months ago from diabetic complications. My Mom was undergoing tx for lung cancer, and died six months ago. We had our 3rd child 15 months ago, and I had to quit work because of child care cost. My wife and my 3 kids have given up our home to keep an eye on my 73yr old Dad and give him companionship.


3 months ago he started having health problems. He is now on dialysis 3x week, is a paraplegic, and has cancer. He is in/out of the hospital a lot and requires 24hr care. Of my 3 surviving brothers, they aren't much help at all. We have NO LIFE. My Dad is slowly dying, and our lives are on hold. He doesn't want to go back to the hospital anymore, but doesn't want hospice either.

Our home is being foreclosed on, we are filing bankruptcy, we are Power Of Attorney's and have to manage his affairs too. I hate to say it, but I wish God would jut take him. I love him, but am so done with the burden of his care and no help except for a wonderful neighbor.

I feel guilty for the anger, but it has to go somewhere. I'm neglecting myself, and don't have the quality time with my wife and kids very often. Just going out to dinner or visiting friends is almost non-existent.

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