I'm not Angry I'm just Sad and Stressed

by Anonymous

I am 25 years old and have been taking care of my mom who is 44 for 4 years now. My mom has muscular dystrophy and it's getting worse.


I am at my breaking point.

I don't get any help from my siblings because I am the oldest. My brother is in college and I also take care of my 16 year old sister who helps me here and there because i want her to focus on graduating high school.

I feel like my life has been stolen as I have no friends, no social life and all the dreams that I had are fading as well.

I'm so tired but I too don't want to feel guilty or leave my mom because she has no one else. So far I've been strong but I feel like giving up sometimes.

I don't want to feel like this anymore but taking care of her is a lot of work. I hardly sleep because she constantly wakes me up 2-3 times a night so I can get the bedpan and in the mornings the same.

The hardest part is I have a 6 year old son and I feel bad because I don't pay him a lot of attention because I have to take care of my mom.

I just don't know what to do anymore. Every friend I did have is starting their careers and I'm just stuck at home taking care of her.

I feel like I don't have a future.

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Amen!
by: Anonymous

Amen to everything I'm So Sorry said. You really need to seek some help. You don't have to fight this battle on your own. There are organizations out there for help, and compassionate people who want to help. Seek them out.

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I am so sorry...
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry you are so sad and stressed at this time in your life. You are your mother's hero!

I am so proud of you when you said you want your sister to focus on graduating. You are a very selfless and mature young lady.

Please know things can change,our burdens can be lifted, just do not give up on seeking help.

There must be a Social Services office in your area. Please go there and see what services are available to your Mother, even if your sister has to miss school in the morning.

Are in you in contact with your mother's doctor to get possible options? Does your mother have all of her finances in order? Are you her Power of Attorney or does she have a Living Trust in place?

I do not mean to make you feel bad in bringing this up, but they are necessary things to think about for your protection as well as your mother. My heart goes out to you, my love.... truly it does. You are not alone.

Look up on the internet some MS Foundations and contact them, I am sure they are a wealth of knowledge and help - for they truly understand your situation. You will be in my prayers.

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