I'm a Brother Who Lives Out of State
by Concerned Son
I live out of state and my sister has been my parents primary caregiver for quite sometime.
Mom has recently passed away, now Dad is in need of further assistance. Dad has been placed in a home and doing well, so I thought...
Seems now that my sister is very resentful and reluctant to relay any information in reference to my father. I do realize this has a been a major burden and responsibility placed on her.
I have never questioned or resisted any of the decisions my sister has made on behalf of my parents care. I have always supported her.
However, the only time she ever really communicates is when things take a turn for the worse, and it is usually through a brief text message. I would visit my parents as much as possible, and make trips whenever necessary.
I do realize that my sister is overwhelmed and quite frankly burned out. She is now making demands and insisting that I come there to help her with my father. I was there for 2 weeks in March and then again in May.
I can not afford any more time off as I do not get paid, and it may cost me my job. My sister was not happy with my response and has now moved my father to another home and will not share any information about my father's condition or his whereabouts.
No matter how much help I have offered her, she has always done what she wanted to. I do not have any information regarding my parents finances, or a any of their personal business as my sister is the Power Of Attorney and I have always trusted to her decisions. Now with mom gone it seems that she has become irrational and has completely shut out the rest of the family.