If only Time were in a Bottle
(Little Rock, AK)
My story is very familiar with the others here. I have only my Mom left as we lost my Dad almost twenty years ago to cancer in his Fifties. My folks raised us right and they set a good example as parents.
What's distressing to me is how little care and love is being shown now towards the care of our Mom by the rest of my family members. My Mom, well what can I say, she is the BEST Mom, always has been. She is old now and not well with Alzheimer's. Her care has been left up to the two least likely individuals, my sister and myself.
My sister is not in very good health and what she doesn't know and none of my other non-participant siblings know is I am no longer in good health.
Daily life has taken its toll on me and the stress from a full time job and raising children and trying to keep my marriage intact have all taken a toll on me. In spite of the health problems I'm facing down, I am there for my Mom and so is my devoted and bighearted sister. I love them both so much. I'm just afraid of what will happen if something happens to one of us and my Mom is left alone?
Will my other siblings suddenly develop a conscience and step up to the plate? I doubt it. My heart is heavy these days as I long for the carefree days of the past but I know what my sister and myself are doing cannot be measured and cannot be replaced so we do it with a smile on our face.
I guess we do what we can and leave the rest to God. When life gets to be too much I sit in my Father's chair (old recliner that still has a faint scent of him) and I feel like everything will be alright again. Life has so many thorns but aren't the beautiful roses worth the thorns?
Nobody ever said this world which we live in is easy but the sun will rise tomorrow and it will set in the evening just like it does every day and life goes on. Life is so very fragile but precious and its these lessons that we are living in that teach us to appreciate those we love the most and let then know we appreciate them.
My question that I ask my caregivers out there is, should my sister and me discuss our health conditions and the extent of them with our siblings or should we go this road alone?