I wish I Could be there More for my Mom

by C. Hammer
(Colorado)

My mom growing up in the late 60's did everything for us. Even made our beds in the morning. My father is a Christian. Now that he is getting older, he is more voiceful about God and just about anything. He treats my mother badly. He won't let her even talk to her own sister because she curses. He forgets everything. Like he says he only goes to Perkins to eat 1 day a week. In reality, he is there everyday. He just does not remember.

He thinks since he is not allowed to drive at night anymore, no one can drive at night. He tells my mom no beer during thanksgiving.

Lectures all day with my mother on this issue. Well, when my brother and sisters came over, he offered them beer. My mom is so lost and hurt. He tells her to go find someone else. He won't get help or hear what we have to say.

My mom will not leave him, she has been with him for too long. And I am sure she still loves him. He has thrown things at her and pushed her in the bushes. I worry about her. He is becoming mean. What should we do? He won't go see a doctor. My mom doesn't want to put him in a home. I am afraid, my mom will pass away before him due to all the stress he gives her.