I Will Not Do This to My Kids!!!
I have had enough. I am the younger of two siblings. I have had the sole responsibility of dealing with the care of my parents.
I assisted my mom, then in her early 80's with the care of my dad who suffered from Alzheimer disease. After he passed in 2007, I became her caregiver.
I managed care in her home, took care of her finances, eventually cleaned out her home, sold her home, moved her into my home. She has lived with me for three years.
She has become progressively demanding, stubborn, and abusive. She has a mild case of dementia and must move about with a walker as she loses her balance.
I work full-time, have a husband and three children, 16 and twins 11 1/2. I do have help in the home during the day to assist and part-time on the weekends. She is abusive to the help and has begun to hit when she can't have her way.
There is absolutely no spontaneous activity in my life. I must plan every detail of it. There are no weekend getaways and it takes an act of congress to plan a yearly vacation.
I am so tired and have begun to resent and hate the woman she has begun. So of course, I feel guilty about that!
There are no easy answers.