I was my Mom's caregiver, now it's down to my Dad
by Terri G
(Hendersonville, NC)
Yes, I do resent being labeled as the caregiver to my elderly Dad. He can not hear or see clearly enough to drive. He has very wicked words and no good words of praise.
I have two brothers that live anywhere from 3 to 5 hours away. They rarely ever call him. My Mom was an entirely different story. She was always so appreciative of the time that I gave to her. She never failed to tell me so. My Dad always has so much criticism of me. I have many times suggested to him about getting him help with the daily household chores.
His comment to me is "I can take care of anything around here, that needs to be taken of". His furnace broke down about a week ago. I ordered a part for him on the internet, but needed a debit card, which he did not have. So, I took care of it. It has really been extremely cold here.
I do not know if it's a game of survival or just plain stupidity. I also know since my Mom passed away, he has declined pretty quick.