I Want my Dad to Live with Me.. Says He Wants to Live with Caregiver.
I have always been close to my Dad and when his wife passed away 3 months ago, I assumed he would want to live with me.
My Dad is 82 years old.
He has a live in caregiver whom we pay. I live in another state and brought him with me to live for 7 weeks because the Caregiver has a second job and goes out of state.
I was hoping my Dad would stay and live with me but he said he missed his house. During his visit with me, my brother who was against this move was talking negative to him about him being with me.
Brother visits once in a blue moon and is not hands on. I make sure my Dad's bills are paid and when caregiver goes out of town I go and stay with my Dad. Siblings are no help at all. Two hardly visit him at all.
I have run out of time at work and am just trying to hold on to my job. I would like my Dad to just stay living with me but he wants to stay in his house that he and his wife have been in for over 20 years.
Also, brother speaking negative doesn't help the situation. I have spoken to my Dad and he is in sound mind and knows what is going on. I don't feel he quite understand the strain this puts on me.
No one else worries about his care. Yet they are quick to criticize if I spend his money on getting help.
Traveling back and forth is taking a toll on me. I am feeling very resentful.
I'm not sure what to do!!!