I thought I was Crazy until I Found Boomers
Yes, I resent that my mother supported both of my brothers all of their lives. My younger brother died of an overdose of the "drug cocktail" from a "pain clinic" while living with my mother. She feels guilty for not trying to wake him up sooner and possibly saving his life. He died 7/07/07.
My older brother was an alcoholic with COPD, living in mom's RV on his property without water and she paid his bills. He died 8/13/13.
My 96 year old mother still drives and still lives alone. She has been difficult since time began. She has always liked men and our relationship was always strained.
I live 50 miles away and spend an average of 1 day/week with her and 1 hour/day on the phone. I have no control, nothing I do is right, and I have a horrible feel that I'll feel guilty when she's gone. However, right now, I'm thinking that she is going to outlive me.