I thought I was Crazy until I Found Boomers

by Sandra
(US)

Yes, I resent that my mother supported both of my brothers all of their lives. My younger brother died of an overdose of the "drug cocktail" from a "pain clinic" while living with my mother. She feels guilty for not trying to wake him up sooner and possibly saving his life. He died 7/07/07.


My older brother was an alcoholic with COPD, living in mom's RV on his property without water and she paid his bills. He died 8/13/13.

My 96 year old mother still drives and still lives alone. She has been difficult since time began. She has always liked men and our relationship was always strained.

I live 50 miles away and spend an average of 1 day/week with her and 1 hour/day on the phone. I have no control, nothing I do is right, and I have a horrible feel that I'll feel guilty when she's gone. However, right now, I'm thinking that she is going to outlive me.

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Not Crazy, But Maybe
by: Anonymous

Sandra, I *was* crazy until my mother died last year. I became an angry, fearful, hostile, wimp from dealing with her for five intense, declining years. She was extremely difficult to deal with and I had to have her declared incompetent in county court.

She ran me ragged and demanded instant service, but refused to let me get help or to move to a memory care facility until I went to court.

I apologized to everyone constantly--"I'm sorry," were the first words out of my mouth with almost everyone, even passing strangers. I jumped 10 feet every time the phone rang--even TV phones. I was often in tears and one time spent an evening crying into my dog Jack's shoulder, wailing, "Oh, Jack."

A few months after my mother died, I realized I'd stopped that. My relationship with her was nothing like your experience, but sometimes the results are the same. It took me a year and Prozac to climb out of the hole I was in.

So yes, we are all some kind of crazy here until we're released. At least you're in good, supportive company!

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