I Need Advice
My 95 year old mother is in a nursing home. She has had a stroke and has vascular dementia as a result. I visit often and even take her out every weekend. She can walk and go to bathroom with little assistance.
Here's my dilemma; I'm going on vacation in October and I am having a problem with how I should tell her without getting her all worked up.
I am practically the only one who visits her, aside from one brother who pops in a couple of times a week. I already know what her reaction will be when she finds out I'll be gone for a week. She won't be happy.
She knows she will not be going out on the weekend and just the fact that I am away will be an issue. She never liked it when I took a vacation.
Frankly, I'm scared to death to have to tell her.
I know I'm going to get that stare of disapproval as well as the guilt trip. I'm going to try and line up a few visitors for her and I'll make the promise to call every day.
I was thinking of putting my suitcase where she can see it and break it to her that way. I also don't want to tell her until the trip is about a week away. Less time for her to brood.
Any advice will be appreciated.