I Got So Spoiled

My mom lives with us and I am her caretaker. She is 85 years old and has some mobility issues and is showing some early signs of dementia although she hasn't been diagnosed.


I have been complaining to my 3 siblings about this situation and I guess my one sister got tired of hearing about it, so she invited my mom to visit her for 6 weeks.

Let me tell you it was pure bliss during that time. I felt like a free person, as though I was released from jail. My husband and I thoroughly enjoyed having our lives back again.

Unfortunately nothing lasts forever, and she came home 2 days again. We are having to readjust to this again and I have to say it's very hard.

If my mom visits her again it won't be until next summer and we don't know how things will be by then.

It's not knowing how long this will last that's the hardest part.

Oh well, at least I did get a break for 6 weeks.
I hope some of you can also get a break.

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mental abuse from mom
by: Anonymous

My husband and I sold our house to live with my 90 yr old mom because she can not be alone for many reasons and have been very stressed out with her disrespect to me and my husband being very nasty to us cursing at us and telling us get out of my house if you don't like it.

My husband can not handle this bad mouthing towards me cant say the words she has called me and we are a few steps from leaving her and putting her in a nursing home and for us to start all over again . We sacrificed selling the house we loved for 20 yrs and now being treated like dirt what should we do

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to "lucky"
by: Anonymous

I think one of the hardest things about being a caretaker is wondering if we will survive this experience.

Will we have any time for ourselves again and how old will we be when we no longer have to be caretakers?

I am 58. I have multiple health issues and she seems to be in better shape than I am.

My husband retired a couple of years ago. I was so excited at all the freedom we would have and the time we would spend together, but that all changed.

I just hope that we are still here and are able to enjoy the time we have left after she's gone.

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lucky
by: Anonymous

My mom has been with me a year now and 2 days and there has been no break. I'm lucky if I get out to grocery shop for an hour a week. I was an independent woman living alone for 22 years and to adjust to this has been true hell and I haven't yet.

It's such a fine line to walk between hating the situation and hating the person. That is terrible to say, but I've never experienced such stress in my life.

When you said how long will this go on is exactly right. With no end date in sight and the calendar months turning over and over, absolute fear sets in that the last good years of my life may be gone.

It's a sad world for the caretaker.

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