I Don't Want to Yell Anymore

by Debi
(Wisconsin)

I live with both my parents my mom is 88 and in excellent condition and can still do most activities. My dad is 91 and he is miserable everyday. The mental and verbal abuse that he puts my mother through is unbelievable. I listen to him for as long as I can and then I lose it and yell at him and tell him to stop treating my mother like a piece of dirt.

From there it escalates and he says he's never going to go to the Doctor again, he is never going to eat again, he wants a divorce, he's going to leave,(has no where to go).

He sits all day and mumbles about what a terrible person he is, how no one in the family likes him, how he worked all these years and made all the money and no one appreciates everything he did.

Then he does this fake crying so that we feel sorry for him. My mom takes it and she always tries to pacify his behavior.

I get so angry at myself for yelling at him because after all he is my Dad. I am sure my Dad resents my mother, because she can still do most everything. My Dad fell and broke his hip the end of December and the rehab center told me that if I wasn't living with them, they would have recommended a long term care facility.

I really believe that is where he belongs. I have 4 brothers, two live out of state and the other two don't help at all. I sometimes think about moving out, but I feel so bad for my mom that I can't.

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