I Don't Want any Advice from My Brother.....
I have been the primary caregiver for my 89 year old mother (who lives with me)for over 10 years with absolutely no help from my older brother, his wife, or son and his family. Yet this brother claims my mother on his income tax as a dependent. Can you believe this? And my mother backs him up. Well I told them both yesterday it's going to end.
If she doesn't like it she can move in with him and I told him, didn't ask, I told him next year I was claiming her b/c I did all the work. He had the gall to tell me he gives her the money he gets back and that I can claim her but to give her the money. He's lying.
They split the money which she told me many years ago. My mother is turning into a major complainer which could be elderly dementia.
She bulks at almost everything I suggest for her to socialize her. Like I suggested we visit a new church. She didn't like the denomination. She went along for the ride and said "I'm not going in." I told her "sit in the car then." I don't want any advice from any brother who has done what he did for years b/c I'm certainly NOT going to get any advice that's going to be helpful to me.
Helpful to my mother and to him maybe but definitely not me. It's so bad now that I have no love left for my mother.
Old wounds have come back up and I see her with new eyes. The best I can do is reach out to other people who can remain objective and fair to support me in a situation that no doubt is about to get worse as her health deteriorates.