“I Don’t Know How You Do It”

This is probably the comment I hear the most. Truth is, I don’t know how I do it. I don’t want to do it. I do it because I have to do it. I do it because no one else in the family wants to do it.




No one in the family even wants to hear about it. Because once I start talking about it, the first thing they say is, I don’t know how you do it. And that’s the end of the conversation.

Then they go on with their lives and here I am doing it. I don’t know how I do it either. I know it’s taking a toll.

I know it’s taking me down. I know it’s taking years off my life. I know it’s changing me for the worse.

These are exactly all the things they don’t want to hear.

I have learned that when they say, I don’t know how you do it, they are done with the conversation. They really don’t want to know how I do it.

So I just change the subject and ask them how are you doing? And then they have a lot to say.

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tell them it's hard and you could use their help
by: Anonymous

and see if they'll step up and help for even long enough for you to go to the grocery store.

Hugs for you - I know it's hard - been there done that - mom is in AL now, thankfully. (and she complains about it but it's whatever)

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