“I Don’t Know How You Do It”
This is probably the comment I hear the most. Truth is, I don’t know how I do it. I don’t want to do it. I do it because I have to do it. I do it because no one else in the family wants to do it.
No one in the family even wants to hear about it. Because once I start talking about it, the first thing they say is, I don’t know how you do it. And that’s the end of the conversation.
Then they go on with their lives and here I am doing it. I don’t know how I do it either. I know it’s taking a toll.
I know it’s taking me down. I know it’s taking years off my life. I know it’s changing me for the worse.
These are exactly all the things they don’t want to hear.
I have learned that when they say, I don’t know how you do it, they are done with the conversation. They really don’t want to know how I do it.
So I just change the subject and ask them how are you doing? And then they have a lot to say.