I Don't Know How Much More I can Stand...

by Anonymous

My mom is a very sweet lady, most of the time. She has had pretty serious health issues, tons of food and drug allergies. 3 times in less than a year, she has had to ride an ambulance to the hospital in screaming pain with bowel obstructions. Dad was so awful to her; he died from complications of dementia 2 years ago. My husband's and my older son committed suicide a few months before Dad.


I had to take early retirement from work to try to handle everything. We live next door to Mom on a mini farm. She has to have everything done in a very precise way or heaven help you! She is 85, and very demanding. One of my nieces tried to help her, but it just wasn't good enough.

My sister and nieces live in town but won't visit and rarely call. She is very angry at them but I can understand why they don't call. Trying to deal with her and her constant issues and my own grief (I have had some serious depression issues from it all).

Dad was dangerous when he was still home. I can't put Mom in care yet, but if things get harder, I will have no choice. And my sister will blame me for it. My sister accused me of killing my Dad.

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I'm so sorry
by: Anonymous

My heart goes out to you, you've been through so much.

I wouldn't worry about what your sister says or thinks She's not dealing with all of this, you are!!

Just do what you need to and what's best for you.
Remember, you're worth it!

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