I do the Housework and my Brother is Paid to Manage the Money
Moved 2000 miles to help care for my mom. I retired early, my husband quit his job, we both draw on our 401k's and until my husband finds a job, we have yearly gifting from Mom. I own my condo, have a $500 monthly payment on a line of credit used to purchase it. I have been here five months. My younger brother lives here and did the day to day and the money management before I moved.
Now, I do most of the household stuff and he is paid to manage the money. Our relationship is full of tension now. It's a significant estate. My mom wants me there all the time. My husband is depressed and resents my brother.
My brother does not like him. He helps my mom a lot too. My mom shows little gratitude and tells me I am "here to care for her" every time I plan a day off. I prepare about 4-5 meals a week, collect mail each day, take her to medical, hair, nail appointments, grocery shop, and more.
My husband and I clean. I supervised new carpeting, floor replacement, etc. recently. I am at my wit's end.I love my mom, but my life is gone. I am in a beautiful place, but rarely get a chance to enjoy it. Help.