I Do not Know What to do With my Siblings

by Antonio
(Guadalajara, Mexico)

I feel so desperate. My mom had a stroke two weeks ago. My siblings are not doing well financially.


However, it is not like they do as much as they can, but pretty much as less as they can. We have a chat group and most of the time, when I ask for help, they don't even reply.

I feel so angry, alone, and frustrated! Worst of all, I know I should not expect much more (they are impossible to talk to), but I just can't get over this.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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Thank you so much
by: Anonymous

Really, it is good to know one is not alone.

I know the situation could be worse and I am grateful to God and all the doctors that my Mom is still with us and doing well enough to be herself (at least to a considerable degree).

Thank you so much everybody, for caring, for praying for me and my family. I pray for all those of you that are going through similar situations.

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Alone
by: Anonymous

Hi, it seems that most caregivers are left alone to take care of the sick love one while the others go on with their lives.

It is extremely hard and unfair, in my opinion. I pray that you can find help from another source and let your siblings know that if they were the one caring for your Mother that you would be willing to help them so you are very disappointed and hurt they do not help you or your Mother.

Tell them you need a break from time to time and it seems only fair they should step up to help. They need to put themselves in your shoes, and think for a second how they would feel. One day they are going to need help. They may not get any and realize how wrong it was for them to refuse help when you needed it.

Try talking to your local hospice and see if they can offer help. They know of any resources available in your area, if they are unable to assist at this time.

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Pat Yourself On The Back
by: AnonymousBonnie

There's not much anybody can do when those closest to them resist reaching out and lending a hand when they can.

I'm so sorry for your struggle in this situation. If nothing else, pat yourself on the back knowing you're giving what YOU can. If you spend any time thinking about what the others aren't doing, you will only make yourself more miserable.

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My advice
by: Sharon

My advice to you is don't bother asking your siblings for any help because you won't get it. I have reached out to my 3 brothers for help with my mother and all I get are excuses.

Everyone is too busy and have things to do. I guess that means I'm not too busy and I have nothing to do because I'm the only one who does anything for our mother.

It's not enough she lives with me and I am at her beck and call for every little thing. My brothers can't even check in once in awhile to see how she's doing. So my friend, give up.

Don't ask and you won't be disappointed. Instead seek the help from friends and neighbors and check your local town or cities for assistance with the elderly. I wish you well!

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