I Care for my Mom, Would not Want to Place Her in Nursing Home.
(New Jersey USA)
I have been caring for my mom for the past 8 years. She just moved into my home after a fracture. I did have mom in rehab for her fracture, and I saw the type of care that is offered there, very sad, and this place was suppose to have been great.
I experienced guilt constantly, I lost my job,and spend most of my time going to therapy,doctors, and other things that helps with mom quality of life. I look back and remember all the things my parents did for me, and this is just a little of my time? years? Most of my time I am thankful everyday that she is still here. I do have help, and she is cognitively still fine, she has physical problems, which we deal with everyday.
I get frustrated, but I am a nurturer at heart, a retire nurse, I love caring for others. I am married, empty nester, and I hope to take sometime away, with my husband. I have a great home care agency that provides me good caregivers, but I have not been away from mom at all yet.
My doctor tells me to go away to relax, it will make be a better caregiver. I want to know has anyone used a live-in for their parent for short term,(1week to 5days)? I have to let go off my insecurities, and fear, that something will happen to her while I am away. I want to be there for her, but I also know my husband and I need a break. Guilt, guilt, that's the hardest! I do not have support from my sibling, thank God for a wonderful husband, and son.
I want to give my mom excellent care, and strive for that each day, but I neglect myself to make sure she get what she needs.