I Can't Handle the Stress!
I have been helping my parents for over 5 years. My Dad was diagnosed with cancer in 2010 and passed away in 2011.
I was there almost constantly helping even though I lived in a different state. The only thing my brother did is give advice when he knew nothing about what was going on nor did he take the time to learn.
He didn't attend my dads service because he had a hunting trip scheduled...5 months after dad died my mom moved to Oregon to be near me.
She lived with me for 6 months while I remodeled her condo. I was her source of everything. One year ago I moved her into an assisted living.
I did it all! Estate Sale, Packing, moving etc. All my brother did was ask where all her money is going and what she spends it on. This past year it has been harder and harder. Trips to the ER, store, etc. All me.
I talk to her a few times a day and try to see her at least 3-4 times per week as well as have her at my home. With her dementia it is very stressful. I am again moving her within a month.
I explained this to my brother 6 months ago that I would be moving her in February so to keep that open. Our relationship is nonexistent at this point as he gives me no support and he is a selfish person with no heart.
Obviously there is more to this story but...I just sent him an email giving him the dates and of course, no response. I told my mom that I had sent him an email and she told me he had scheduled a vacation for that time...
What should I do? I am thinking about hiring a person to do the move for her but then I feel guilty doing this. I don't want my mom to feel I won't help. I just need some support and am not receiving any. HELP!!!