I am the "Chosen One"

by Heather
(Mission Viejo)

I deeply resent the fact that I get little to no help from two of my siblings. It is beyond frustrating to hear all the excuses that they come up with. I know in my heart that I will never regret bringing Mom into our home. It would just be so great if they reached out more to help.

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feeling the same way
by: Anonymous

I am in the same boat.I have said for years I am the chosen one but I am the one that cant do anything right.

I am here looking for some comfort because I feel the same way you do and i feel bad for feeling that way. My mom does not want me to live my life I am supposed to be consumed by her but I do have kids and grand kids and I don't want to take her every where i go. I love being alone sometimes.

If hubby and I go out I get in trouble because I did not include her. I hear from siblings when she calls to complain about me.

I want to be the child who just calls every now and then and comes to visit twice a month. How do we get past it?

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I know your pain
by: Bittersweet

I am the only girl out of 4 children.(I'm 60) My mother asked to live with me 10 years ago when my father was failing from Dementia.

Dad passed in '08 and mom (91) is going strong.

My 3 brothers never call or visit much less take her out. I've given her a comfortable home with her own space, I do whatever she asks, I jump through hoops to please her.....and it's never enough, she's never happy.

She always wants more and I never know what's going to set her off and put her in one of her miserable moods and those come quite often.

I'm happy to go to work every day just to get away from her. She's controlling, nosy and demanding. Frankly, I hate her and I look forward to the day she dies.

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Been There, Done That
by: Anonymous

I'm also the only sibling that takes care of my mother. I also have asked and received the same excuses. Everyone says to try and talk to the others, but you can ask until the world implodes and it will still be the same old things.

So I feel for you chosen one. I hope that things are better for you!!!!

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