I am Mother 2 Everyone

by Used to be Hazel
(Cicero ill.)

Going crazy in Chicago. My 76 year old dad refused to stay in nursing home which believe me he needs however, seems to use a guilt trip on me.


I work full time and have two kids that need me more....he gives his check to my brother and I'm stuck dealing with him. And paying for every thing out of my pocket which takes away from my bills and children. We are in process of losing our apartment due to his yelling and impatience....what to do what to do? At wits end. Felling guilty so his plan is working. Dad wins. Always...and I never agreed to play...

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Brother has Check. Give him Dad.
by: Anonymous

Yelling? Taking your money and giving his to your brother? You need to take care of your children and your brother needs to give your father his money back. Dad needs to go back to the nursing home. Clearly he doesn't respect you. Sorry.

Your kids and your life are more important. I can predict that when the will is read, your brother will get everything except the bag that you will be left holding. Your life will be in financial ruins and you might even be homeless.

Since he might get you kicked out of your apartment and he will end up back in the nursing home anyway, why not speed up the process and avoid living in your car with your kids? Or do you want to lose that too because you won't be able to afford the car payments?

Sorry to be brutally honest, but that's what's going to happen. If your dad cared about you, he wouldn't be acting that way and you would have the check and not your brother.
Good luck standing up for your children's rights, if not your own. They need you to be THEIR mom, not everyone else's!

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I am Mother 2 Everyone
by: Catherine

Dear Going Crazy,

There is something very wrong with this picture. Your brother gets the check and you pay for everything out of your own pocket, and you have 2 kids who need you? Does your dad have a history of making you feel guilty?

If so, maybe your guilt can be lessened by knowing your kids need you ... not your dad who makes you feel guilty. Could you have a meeting with your brother and maybe dad and let them know that this needs to stop.

They have crossed the line of taking advantage of you, and you are not a door mat. You are a saint for putting up with this, but be good to yourself and your kids.

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