I am Drained

My mom (almost 85) lives with us. She wants my constant attention and I just don't have the energy or desire to give it to her. Yesterday I spent about 5 hours with her which was enough. We went out for dinner and when we came home I got on my computer and did a few things.


She sat there watching me, clearly annoyed and finally went to bed without saying a word to me.

I didn't care. I continued what I was doing and I was glad she went to her room.

At one time I wouldn't have dared do such a thing, but with each day with each month that passes by, it's getting easier and I'm caring less and less.

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It does get easier to care less. It's a fine line to walk between hating the situation and hating the person causing it.

I've had my mom 24/7 for a year now. She gets up when I get up, goes to bed when I go to bed, won't take a nap unless I do. To me, she has become the Siamese twin that didn't die at birth.

I have begun doing what I want or need to do. She is not neglected in any way, but for my own sanity I must take more charge of my life instead of her running it. What it amounts to is that I gave up my independence so she can maintain hers.

Don't feel bad in the least for how you feel. It's natural and it's common.

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