I am Done

by Lisa
(Spartanburg S.C)

My elderly stepfather came to live with me 2 years ago. He has literally taken possession of my home. Court dates etc. The court is actually entertaining the idea that he has the right to live here as its his home. Even though I have produced a deed and title for the home with my name only. The man is verbally abusive and has threatened me with physical violence a number of times.


At the moment he has just returned from a hospital stay. He can not take care of himself. He EXPECTS me to do so. He just got home today and is purposely urinating in my living room. Smoking in my home and just being his disruptive self.

I have tried removing him via court. As you see from above this did not work. And cost me thousands of dollars I don't have. Any suggestions please.

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Here's Johnny!
by: Anonymous

You poor woman. If all else fails to stop this miserable monster, you could always smother the old ogre in his sleep with a pillow.

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Get Help
by: Bittersweet

Lisa, You need to call your local chapter of elderly affairs and get him evaluated. He will most likely be deemed incompetent and unsanitary to be living with you. The state may step in and have him placed in a home.
Good luck!

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Wow
by: Anonymous

Oh my gosh. He isn't even a blood relative, how can the court think he is your responsibility? I don't know if you have a county social worker on your side, but that's a thought to meet with one and see if you can enlist their help.

It sounds to me that he could be considered a danger to himself, especially with smoking and the possibility of a fire. My mom smokes and there is NO stopping her. It's a constant worry for me. If he has no funds to go to a home, then the county would be the place to start.

You put up with a lot and I'm so sorry for you. Just when I think my life couldn't get any worse, someone posts something even more horrible than what I deal with and you certainly do. Post again please, you need to vent.

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Eviction order?
by: Anonymous

Have you tried an eviction? What about putting depends on him and refusing to get him cigarettes.

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Solution
by: Anonymous

Put your house up for sale. Find another home and let him find one too.

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