I am a Better Mother to my Mother then She Was to Me.

by Marlow
(Philadelphia, PA)

My mother married 3 times,..and had 5 serious relationships for my years in high school. She left me alone with her alcoholic abusive husband,..divorced him then dated several others,..leaving me home every weekend without food in the fridge.


Now, however,...she wants me to be at her call, 24/7 to take her to do her errands, clean for her,..doctor appointments,..etc. My other sibling does nothing and lives far away from it all. I get no thanks from that sibling either,..just toxic grief.

Anyway,...usually I'm okay,..but I do feel guilt and resentment. The resentments of my youth started to rise to the top like foam on coffee,..when her demands increased. Its a thankless,..hard job. Thanks for you ear today:)

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by: RAY IN TX

Of course no two situations are alike but, my mom was similar to yours and is very demanding. Never satisfied and always puts her men first.

She is in her 70s and although she no longer throws tantrums she is a manipulator and is very childish. She used to pull our hair and slap us, stomp her feet when things did not go her way.

My sister and I live in the same community as she does. Our brother lives in another state. He sends money and is very supportive of my mom but he does not deal with the daily demands. You seem to have some of the same emotions as I do about a parent that was basically abusive feeling entitled.

Hope that things get better for you.

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