My story is about my partners mum. She lives near Newcastle and is 86 with dementia. His younger brother lives near to her whereas we live 180 miles away. Their dad died 7 and a half years ago and she inherited £65,000 plus another £115,000 four years later from a sister.
His brother took third party authority over her bank accounts about 3-4 years ago. One of the younger brother's sons bought a 2 bedroom property 3 years ago, and we suspect that their mum has paid a good amount towards it.
The point is though that nobody has seen the accounts for any of the money since their dad died, even though they have been asked for both in writing and in person to the younger brother.
He has now applied for power of attorney which my partner has blocked because of the situation. He not only feels there has been mismanagement of their Mum's account, but she has needed medical care such as cataracts in both eyes which could have been paid for out of her savings and which was mentioned to him at the time two years ago, but he chose to disallow her to bypass the NHS and now it is too late to operate on one of the eyes.
She now has walking problems also which nobody was doing anything about (she has injured herself having fallen down the stairs twice) and this is what has caused her leg problems.
It turns out she needs special insoles or shoes so that she can walk properly, otherwise she will have serious problems with her hips I was told by a physiotherapist at the Newcastle hospital when I took her there three weeks ago.
She is living with a commode in the back utility room behind the kitchen if she can't get to the toilet upstairs! It's disgusting what's going on!
The social services are now involved but don't seem much help because she has savings and the house is worth a lot too. We just want everything just to be spent on her and are now going to court about it all, but it's ridiculous the way the system works.
When you approach the banks too, you find they aren't straightforward with you and can't be trusted either. It's so stressful and all we want is for an old woman to receive the care she should be entitled to, rather than be controlled by his control freak of a brother!