How do I Muster up Needed Patience & Caring?

by Robin
(Arizona )

My mother in law is staying with us for 4 months or so. She has multiple health issues. My husband left the fourth day she was here to go redo my mom's floor 100 miles away!

I try to be patient & helpful with mom but fail miserably. I'm frustrated at communicating as she's hard of hearing. She's sick with a cold which happens every time she comes to visit.

We can't do anything fun together. She sleeps a lot in the day so I have to walk on tiptoes & not make noise.

I went for a much needed walk & she frets at me that she didn't know where I was. I resent the lack of freedom. I want to be patient & understanding but can't muster it up. Help!

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Love & Opportunity
by: Robin

Thanks for your honesty. Actually I am doing pretty well with my mother in law & it looks like my husband & I are in for the long haul.

Her own daughter & up to now favorite granddaughter, my husband's niece,have ended availability. We love her a great deal & are thankful for the opportunity to shelter & care for her now.

My frustrated moments are getting further apart, thank the Lord, and we do not consider this a private hell or long dark tunnel.

Warning: Sarcasm Coming
by: Anonymous

Four months?? Really? You actually have an end to your tunnel and you're already climbing the walls?

I don't know when you made this entry so probably by now your personal little hell is over and you're back to the good life. If I knew I was only in this gig for four months I would move heaven and earth to give my mom every little thing she wanted.

But like most of us, me included, our tunnels are pitch dark and endless. We don't know if we're in here for four months or fourteen years!! Thank your lucky stars you have a date you can hang your hat on and focus on that and be grateful everyday that your situation is not permanent.

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