How Can I Move my Parents Out of my House?
My parents age 79 and 81 are doing fairly well. They moved in with me, moving from another state 8 years ago to, "help out with the girls" (ages 6 and 8).
They paid for the remodel of the home to give them their own space, and we share the kitchen.
I am a nurse and at times work evenings and weekends. Even though my parents didn't interact much with their granddaughters, I felt that the girls were safe on those evenings and weekends I was working.
Now my father is becoming more forgetful and easily confused, and my mother is also becoming forgetful.
My parent's sitting room is situated that when I walk into the kitchen my mom can see me from her room and she ALWAYS says something to me. I feel that I have no privacy.
It has gotten to the point that in the morning as I am getting ready for work I stay as quiet as possible as to not let them know that I am in the kitchen so they wont get up at 7:00 am to say 'good morning' to me!
I feel guilty because they are very nice, but I'm 57 years old and I don't want my father telling me to bring an orange to work with me!
One of my teenage daughters seems to be O.K. with Grandma and Grandpa living here, the other daughter often asks me if they plan to live with us forever.
I am their only parent, as their father died 2 1/2 years ago. (We split up when the girls were 2 and 4 years old.)
I am considering asking my parents to move to a senior living apartment in the same town, but don't want to hurt their feelings. I think I would feel better and have my own space.
The "Good" Daughter