How can I Help my Dad he Dwells on his Abusive Childhood and is very Bitter

by Terri
(Winter Haven, Fl)

I am an only child and I was taking care of both of my 75 year old handicap parents. Talk about being Cinderella. My mother passed away a couple of months ago and now its just Dad & I, he can take care of his self while I am at work he still drives.


My dilemma with him is he was abused as a child and every conversation (almost) is about his father and what he did to him, same stories over and over again and he embellishes and possibly makes some of it up, he uses such fowl language its miserable to be around him.

He just talks and talks and constantly, I know he is lonely but no one wants to be around some one when they talk so fowl and they are always negative and bitter. I have tried to tell him in a nice way, I don't want to hurt him but it goes in one ear and out the other.

He is so hard of hearing you have to yell at him while he is looking at you at least 3 times, so I barely talk to him because he does all the talking
He is very nice to me. I want him to be happy and make friends. I want to get him some kind of help.
Any suggestions?

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