Hired Caregivers have a Rough Job Too...
I am a long time caregiver for elderly and mentally ill adults and yes we are not paid fairly and treated like dirt by the person we care give for...their families and our employers. I am in my LAST year of caregiving thank god after 25 years...my child graduates from college in three months and I have done this as it is steady work with crappy pay so I work minimum 70 hours a week to make a normal paycheck.
In 25 years I have had two persons I care give for and their families that were decent to me and showed appreciation for my always being available and could count on me.
ALL the rest were uncaring unappreciative and the children, 50 Year Old and Up "Brats" were the WORST!!
Never around unless they were trying to suck up and get mom and dad to leave them everything to cheat their siblings out of everything they could...come in out of no where and redo everything making their parents lives worse...Complain and belittle you every chance they get to make themselves feel superior and important...they literally make me puke.
I've only stuck it out this long as I am a single parent and have paid for my child's college as well. I cant wait to kiss this disgusting, thankless, abusive, mentally and physically and low paying job GOOD BYE ASAP!
I don't understand people/creatures who think treating the ONLY person who they and their jerky disgusting family member can count on to do what they themselves wouldn't do like trash and they think that's going to make the overworked, over stressed caregiver want to be there or do their best??
I'm at my very last drop of compassion for these people...I used to be a loving caring hard working person. Now I go in and do my job and make my life easier doing the bare minimum as I make $9 an hour while the company makes $19 and noone appreciates you anyway.
Took me 24 years and 6 months to figure that out because at heart I AM a good person and take pride in my work but I'm Burnt
out and my child was the one who could see what this has done to me and told me to stop over doing cause they don't care about me so why should I kill myself for them.
I've donated a lot of time to helping these people and their families and all I ever get back in return is jerky RACIST behavior from the elderly AND Their A**hole families.
I don't know what this nation is going to do cause there are not enough caregivers and the population in need Grows Every Year...Baby Boomers...Anyone I ever meet that considers going into caregiving I tell them TO RUN!!!
It does nothing but make you older beyond your years and poorer then when you began. Caregivers have No Benefits...No Raises in Most Cases...No Paid Vacation or Retirement Benefits. So for ALL You People out there that Have a Caregiver or One day will BE NICE TO THEM. EVEN A FREAKING THANK YOU GOES A LONG WAY...its not much to expect to be treated with Decency...the same decency you want for your loved one right?!?
I wrote this to get the information out to help show the caregivers point of view...Yes Family members who are caregivers have it rough...but people act like Hired Caregivers have no feelings and are just robots to put up with not only the mental and emotional BAD behaviors of the patient but their stupid family too that the caregiver isn't even paid to take the families crap but they do cause they need the paycheck.
You people who act this way are pathetic. My comment has nothing to do with the decent people out there and is not directed to them personally...I am just trying to share with others that being a paid caregiver is Just as Hard if Not Harder as at least the family member caregiver can Say something about others involved.
Paid caregivers are really slaves and have to go along with pretty much everything do to needing the income to provide for their own family. It's sad and doesn't help your loved one get the best care possible when the caregiver is treated badly by Everyone.