He's killing Mom
(Crown Point, IN)
Dad (my step Dad) will be 98 in December! He's always been very sharp and "the boss." He said we will NEVER put him in a nursing home and that he wants to be home until he dies.
We've tried it at home and it is impossible. He requires 24 hour care, and is very deaf and almost blind now. He has been in and out of the hospital and is currently in Skilled Care. We will soon require transfer to a Nursing Home. He still is relatively sharp, but has been Hell on wheels.
Mother is 84 and very ill with a heart condition. He continually yells at her and has now told her he no longer loves her after 50 years of marriage.
He has reached his daughter in another state and has arranged for her to come and get him to live in Florida. We're in Indiana. If he leaves, he will kill my Mom. There doesn't seem to be anything we can do to stop him. I cried myself to sleep last night and Mom is completely broken.
Do we let him leave to give Mom some peace??? Or do we fight to keep him here, knowing we only have his anger and bitterness. HELP!!