Her Infantile Ways

by Mary Grace
(Saxton's River, VT usa)

My mother is 92 and of course tired. I feel a lot of compassion for her especially since she lost my brother four years ago. (He died in his sleep). I know he was by far her favorite child and I am so sorry for her. As well she will not focus on what needs to be done like waking or bathing, and it is frustrating, but if I lost my son I know I would also feel hope less.


She is tired out. I wish I could help more but there is not much to be done except to be there for her. She is kind to me and wants to help me financially and otherwise. But often she just doesn't want to be bothered with the issues of the world any more. Still, she wants to live as long as she can, and I hope to help her.

I wish she would be more "grown up". She has always been a bit infantile (had a nervous breakdown when we were young). I also do not get along well with her helpers who seem to think me an idiot of some sort. Any thoughts or advice?

I know she and I do love each other. But all my life I have been her mother in some way and I am tired. I would be glad for advice or help!
Mary Grace

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