Help !! Who Else is Dealing with Elderly Mother-in-Laws ?
My husbands father passed away almost a year ago now and its been tough for his mom. But she has 4 son's, one has quit his job(retired)fortunately he could do it, well she has always been good to me & respectful, but the last time the son that is her caregiver took a mini vacation, she was downright mean to me. She lashed out at me because he brought her to our house to stay from a Saturday to Saturday only. She agreed, but didn't like it AT ALL!
We tried to make sure she was comfortable here while she was here .... we both even asked her if she wanted to go home or if she got ready to go home, we would bring her home! WELL .... She made sure my life had become a living hell, she said mean thing's, I could do nothing right!
My husband had to go to work, I get up with him every morning at 5am & he didn't see or hear any of this , when he came home she was soooo delightful that sugar couldn't melt in her mouth! I only have one other sister-in-law that can help but refuses to or does not want to help out at all, because they have never gotten a long.
So it's ME who is stuck with her now! I do not know how much longer I can do this without letting my anger & resentment ruin our marriage, because after all ... this IS HIS MOM!
She has been left with money for her needs, nothing to worry about financially & that's another thing she told me. I WAS NOT GOING TO RECEIVE ANY OF HER FOUR BOYS INHERITENCE !!!
WELL ... I DO NOT WANT IT OR NEVER EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT THAT !!!I need help in dealing with this & I need encouragement PLEASE !!!!
I do not want to have her cause my husband and I problems but if she continues I see it will!! I see my future now!! If I could work outside the home I would, trust me!
But I have degenerated slipped disc's in my back & herniated disc and am in pain a lot, but that seems to not matter! I always thought my sister-in-law was making things up about her, I've been in this family for 11 years now & I know now she was not making it up. Like I say she wasn't like this the time's before when I would stay with her, but all of a sudden she is ... just mean & very hurtful with her words.
How to deal with this, I NEED HELP!!! Before it ruin's my relationship's with my husband, her son!
And another thing , I can't have my friend's over text or talk on the phone to anyone at all as she gets very very upset if I do , so it's not worth it anymore !!! HELP !!