Help Me!

by Marge
(Vineland NJ)

I have 2 parents to worry about. My father is 90 with congestive heart failure and my mother is 87 with severe angina, thyroid, arthritis & is having dementia problems.


My mother thinks my father is trying to poison her and is verbally abusive towards him. She has been bed ridden for several weeks now. My father's heart failure is getting worse and he is having a very hard time waiting on her.

I go over every afternoon and try to help with things. It's getting harder &harder to manage them & it is really stressing me out. I'm having trouble sleeping over this situation. Don't know what to do.

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Hang on!
by: Anonymous

It's so hard. I think dad needs to get his own room and be told that she is not herself. I have to care for my mom and grandma every day and it's exhausting.

You need a friend who understands what you are going through. It's not easy!!! Hugs for you for trying.

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Split in Two
by: Anonymous

Well, the obvious thing to do is to clone yourself and be in two places at once!...
However, failing that, just do what you can! You don't say how things are between you and your parents but not being able to drop everything and provide round the clock support does not make you selfish or uncaring. If you try to take care of everything you will be left to it.

Look for support from the medics, social care, friends, family, charities and the community. Be specific in what you can and cannot do yourself and accept the help that is offered.Do not feel guilty and do not become a martyr to this sad situation. Good Luck!

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