HELP ME

by Barbara
(NY)

Yes I do.

I have a mother who has been miserable all her life. She moved here from Europe with my father, also from Europe. My father passed away in 2000 and he was a wonderful man. My mother ruined their first living situation (my dad uncle let them live with them) because she felt she was being controlled. Next we move (I was four).

Then she gets into another tiff with the new landlord...and we move again (I was 10). She always felt like people were controlling her.

We were / are not rich, were the working lower class. My dad worked very hard and I never felt we needed anything.

As I got older was when all hell broke lose. She had it in her head that I should marry someone local and stay local. I would have lived in a paper bag in NYC to get away from her. She always criticized me. I was thin but she said I was fat. I was never pretty, though later found out I was.

Now I am married (21years) and she now compares me to my mom's old neighbors daughter who is over weight and married 4 times. It just never ends. Children know nothing.

I moved her closer to me. She used to live 2 1/2 hours away from me in the middle of no where. She complained how alone and lonely she was and that everyone was so mean to her. We would have to make LARGE grocery trips as there was no close grocery store. SO, because she wanted to (though she now says she never said it) we bought her a nice house (1 minute from us), fixed it up.

Never once a thank you. Now all she does is criticize my husband who has been more than gracious to the old bag. She will never call us. We invite her for dinner , she would rather stay home.

I am an only child and have no family here....

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