Help me please

by Nancy
(Mechanicsburg PA USA)

My dad is 93 perfectly clear mind.Not problems to hearing or vision but is EXTREMELY bitter and mean. Don't want to shower is in the basement and last 8 weeks don't talk with nobody we supplied everything he don't addressed anyone I decided don't go down Drive me crazy I don't know what to do?

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His mind is NOT clear
by: Gina

I am sorry for your struggles with your father and you are not alone in this. My elderly uncle was visiting his older sisters for a few weeks and he refused to shower, even after soiling himself with poop.

If he has some savings, I would find an in-home care service to provide a male helper to get him into the shower every few days. Maybe make a date to take him somewhere but the he first needs to shower and wear clean clothes. If the shower is in the basement maybe he is unsteady going down the stairs?

A sponge bath is better than nothing. If he doesn't have the financial means you maybe can call social services to get him assessed for services. Most of all, make sure you take care of yourself and get out of the house to relax and have fun. Wishing you well!

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by: Bittersweet

It's obvious your father is experiencing some sort of breakdown. Healthy minds do not act that way. You need to call your local Elder Assistance department. He may need professional care.
Good luck.

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I think he needs to see a doctor
by: Anonymous

are you SURE he doesn't have dementia?
when was the last time he saw a doctor?
Maybe he needs an evaluation.

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