Help is Here but not Wanted.

by Carolyn
(Toledo, OH, U.S.)

I am living with my elderly mom and sister. My sister doesn't think about what she says before she opens her mouth. She is sarcastic and mean.


She has developed a reputation to other family members as being a "Debbie Downer." I was taking care of my mom back when she could get around although she still needed someone there with her.

My sister moves in with us and has taken over my mom's care. She constantly complains that she doesn't get any help with my mom but she pushes me away when I want to help take care of my mom too. I guess she feels she is the only one who can do it better.

It has become to the point that I don't want to be around her because of her poor attitude. I have another sister who is married and she wants my sister to make "appointments" before she comes over to visit or come by to see our mother. My sister who is married and my sister who lives with my mom and I is very hard to talk to.

The sister who lives with my mom and I you can't have a mature conversation because she is highly sensitive. But yet, she still complains about not having help. I can't get her to understand that is why I'm here but she shuts me and everyone out.

My married sister and her don't get along because my live in sister is hypercritical and rude. You can't talk to her about anything she will not listen. This is a case of the help is here but she doesn't want it and speaks out of both sides of her mouth concerning help for my mom.

I feel right now that I can't move out and leave my mom with her because my live in sister has health issues herself. My sister is someone I just don't know anymore.

I have to put distance between herself and me because I can't seem to get along with her. I just don't know what to do about this situation.

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