HELP if no one Helps I am Going to run Away and Leave my 88 year old Mother ! Cannot take it any More!

Please give me some advice! Wrote before on this site twice already! But, had another argument withe my 88 year old mother (I am 54 and my daughter living with me - us is 27) My mother does not want to live in a care home, nor by herself near my place nor go and live with my older sister (she is married and has a21 year old son).


I want to have a life! Got a boy friend but mother(88)does not like him! She says he is saying things against her! So I would leave her! Lots more to this story but cannot write it all down now!

PS. mother is alright some of the time then she seems to lose track of things! Cannot do this any more! I am really going to give up! My older sister does not do a lot. She only comes occasionally to see her....help, I am really going to leave her! My daughter will come with me as she is fed up living like this! (forgot to say my 88 year old mother has an obsession about my daughter!

She wants to comb her hair and follows her around the house all the time. Lots more to explain on this matter but too long to explain !
thanks
FT

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starstarstarstarstar 		Your 88 Year Old Mother
by: Anne

If your mother is following your daughter around and driving you both crazy, it's time to leave. Get your mother in a care facility or tell your sister that it's one month with her and one month with you.
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by: Anonymous

There are many excellent assisted living facilities, senior citizen apt. and nursing homes that will provide your mom with great care, companionship, and activities.

Do not feel guilty for not continuing to provide her with full time care. Life is short-you need to live your life also.
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starstarstarstarstar 		I Feel for You
by: Sandra

Are you living with mom or is she living with you?
I don't have any advice as I'm mom's roommate. Mom and I have had our disagreements but finally after being back together since 2004 I can say we are getting along really well. It's a miracle.

Can you talk to a counselor? Can you separate your house where mom isn't in your immediate space? i.e., I live downstairs in the den area & can close the kitchen door. Mom upstairs. I wish I had more to say. I really feel your pain!

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