Help from Doctors

I am at my wit's end with doctors. I have my mom 24/7. This woman does not sleep. She's often up until 10:00 at night and then gets up anywhere from 2-4 in the morning wide awake demanding her coffee. She has a walker and can't do this herself, so when she's up I am up. I'm walking in my sleep anymore because of my own lack of sleep.


I also don't want her up when I'm not because I don't trust her since she's a smoker (another way caring for her is killing me and there is NO stopping her from doing that.) She takes a nap around noon, but it's never longer than twenty minutes. It's like she's battery charged.

I have tried melatonin (up to three even at 10 mg each) along with a PM and nothing works on this woman to get her to sleep.

I've talked to her doctor and because she had a fall he will not prescribe anything. In fact, I've been to three doctors and every single time it's always about her. Well what about me?

Am I supposed to start each day with a Five Hour energy drink so I can stay awake? My own thinking anymore (from stress and lack of sleep) is hardly better than hers and I am worried about my own health, but that doesn't seem to matter.

She gets NO caffeine and increasing physical activity to wear her out is not possible with how feeble she is. Does anyone have a suggestion? I would appreciate any advice.

Thanks so much.

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