Having Difficulty with My 90 Year Old Mom

by Bun
(Nl Canada )

I have been taking care of 90 year old mom for 11 years since my dad died she lives alone and I visit her every day and help her out with a lot of her errands and cleaning she has always had a mean streak but lately she had been accusing me of hiding her personal mail saying I must think she doesn't know what she's doing and that she's not going Senile and she knows what I'm trying to do.


She doesn't have any memory loss and she is smart as a top. She has a lot of painful Arthritis and knee pain. I try to do everything I can do for her but it's never enough to please her.

She is always mad at me for no reason saying hurtful things. Whenever I ask her will I get her a cup of tea or some lunch she will answer me with indeed I don't what tea I can get it myself.

She is angry all the time not just at me but with everybody there are 5 other children whom she has falling out with most of them and they can't even come to visit so the blunt of it is left on me.

But I'm the one she takes things out on and I don't know how to deal with it any longer. I spend more time crying over things she says and I can't deal with it anymore. I think I'm going to loose my mind.

I can't walk out on her because she doesn't have anyone else that cares. I love my Mother and I only want what's best for her but I just can't live like this.

Is there any suggestions that anyone can give me to save my sanity.
Thank you ...

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