Harley

by Peggy
(Virginia)

My mom is 87 and she lives alone. I used to go over to her house twice a week to help her out with things. But now I don't have a car. My daughter who is 33 offered to take my mom to the store whenever she needed to go. But my mom won't ask us. She will ask other people in the neighborhood before she asks us. I asked her one time why she does that - is it pride, having to ask your family for help? She just said "oh no that's not it."


She would never answer my question. She said 2 days ago she would need to go to the store.

I told her to call Stacey (my daughter) and set up a time with her when she can take her. My mom called me this morning and said a lady in the neighborhood took her to the store this morning.

I was pissed, but I didn't let her know that. I think in her mind we should just flock over there and say "here we are, we will take you to the store now." My daughter works a full time job, so she can only do it at certain times.

Last month my daughter offered to take her to the store on a Friday. My mom hemmed and hawed and said I will have to think about it. But yet my mom says we are the only ones that she likes to go to the store with.

It's like my mom thinks that she shouldn't have to ask. But yet she rambles on and on about how years ago she did so much to help her kids and grand kids. Take them to the dentist, pick them up from school - things like that. But the reason she did those things is because someone ASKED her.

I'm sure all the people around her think we are terrible because they think we don't do nothing for her when they don't know the whole story. It's getting to the point where we don't won't to ask to help her with nothing whatsoever. It is very aggravating.

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