Guilty, why?

by Judith

The eldest of 6 children, geriatric nurse for 30 years,currently caregiver for my mother (living in my home with my husband and I),responsible for my father (living in senior apt out of state). Found this site during a teary Sunday morning, it’s never enough is it?

Siblings text or call every so often,very concerned of course, Doctors call with instructions and demands while Mom frequently tells you she would handle this or that differently.

You try not to express these thoughts to anyone for fear they will judge you negatively, which they often do.

But I say again, Guilty,why?

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by: Greenacres

I thought the guilt I was feeling was my catholic upbringing. After venting on this site, I realized a lot of people have this unexplained guilt. It's not that you did or are doing ANYTHING wrong. You are SUCH a caring person you forgot about yourself.

You are having what you think are guilty thoughts when you want to say what about me?? You deserve a happy life, yet you are fretting about everyone but yourself. THIS IS NOT SELFISH> We are supposed to take care of ourselves and nobody knows better than you what you want. You will not be judged here.

by: Anonymous

that's how you're built. I'm the same way. I try to do my best for my mom and I worry far too much about what I'm doing. You just want the very best and feel if you're doing going above and beyond you're not doing the very best and you feel guilty about it. Try not to.

I know - it's hard not to, but for your own health and sanity you need to find a way. Be gentle with yourself. Hugs.

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