My situation is a little different than most of you. I'm 50 and mom is 72. We are both recovered alcoholics and both still smoke cigarettes. My mom fell at work and broke her leg. And now she is retired. As a single mother she has always sacrificed everything for me growing up. She now lives on SSI and in a nice subsidized apartment upstairs which she likes.
I have moved in with her on the lease as her care giver. She has macular degeneration. I work 60+ hours a week. Not able to care for a dog as in walking. She has a few friends but seldom sees them. Things are not horrible but it is all very depressing to me. I'm an up spirited son but I find myself always being negative and trying to convince mom we need to do this and that and she is combative sometimes and it takes a lot to keep calm.
She has become extremely conservative not wanting to throw anything away and I fight with her about hygiene and nutrition. We both pray and thank god for the miracles but it makes me so angry that she could be doing more to take care of herself.
Shes never been lazy and she wants to do everything for me instead of herself. She eats sweets all day until I get home and we cook dinner.
It's basically like I've become the parent and shes becoming the toddler..I'm sure this is all typical normal stuff that happens.
If she does have a small accident with the bathroom I've told her to let me know and put the clothing in the bathtub and take it off in the bathtub but she will think that the underwear are worth keeping..
I don't want to go into tmi but you get were I'm coming from with the not wanting to throw anything away and making a mess.
I don't think its a mental disorder its almost like hoarding but its really hard for me not to get angry. Then I might say things that I feel so bad for I feel like a piece of garbage..anyway just venting and letting whomever know they are not alone..its just me and her..