Guilt Trip

My mom has always been such a loving person. I got engaged 2 years ago about and things have been rocky with her and I. I help her out with the cleaning of the house all the time. Then turns around saying I'm being very ungrateful to her. She is 60 yrs old. She has been having calcium in the shoulder and arm recently. Its been giving her pain.


She's also had pain in her hip as well. Shes been having issues with the family doctor putting her down. She has just been so miserable. My dad is even sticking up for her.

She even says things about my fiance that weren't even said. I ask her why shes been so miserable she come out and says she hasn't than starts crying to my dad and accusing my fiance of things.

It's always a feel sorry for me type of deal. My mom knows I am there but it seems like she isn't who she once was. My mom isn't happy and complains all the time. If someone can help me that would be wonderful.

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Yes: Losing you is correct
by: Gina

Ditto to everything Losing You wrote. What type of help do you think will change your situation? The only person you can control is yourself.

Get married and be happy and put boundaries around your relationship with your parents. You are not responsible for their happiness.

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Losing You
by: Anonymous

I'll point out the obvious here and say: she's not happy about you getting married because she is afraid of a shift in your relationship.

No mother wants to lose her baby girl especially if you have been close. A husband gets in the way, becomes a priority and mom gets left behind.

Compound this with the pain she is having as well as going through menopause. Talk about a recipe for disaster!

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