Guilt Over Leaving Mom in A Nursing Home to Move to the UK

by Becky
(St. Paul, MN, USA)

Almost six years ago, my husband and I returned from living in England and Spain (he's English) to take care of my mother who is now 96 and in a nursing home. My brother lives in Norway.


My mother is wheelchair- bound and quite forgetful but otherwise in relatively good health. My husband is very anxious to return to England and is impatient with the notion that we should wait until she dies before moving. We are both 68 and share the concern if we stay here, we may be too old to move before long. However, I feel very guilty about "abandoning" her as she has no other relatives here in St. Paul. How can I get some help with making a good decision?

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