Going Insane?

by Jeannie
(El Paso, Texas)

I am 50 years old and have been divorced almost ten years. I thought living with my mother and caring for her was the solution. My two teen children are not involved with my mother. That's probably my fault.


In addition, I have a Down's brother, my mother's other biological son, who I visit often and take care of at the state facility that he lives at.

I feel the most anger towards my mother, because she didn't care for her mother in 1974 when she died. And my mother, and deceased father, put my brother in the state system in 1970. Then, my mother's dad was taken care of before his death by her half brother.

I want to get a place of my own before I go out of my mind. I work part time and I currently have power of attorney over my mother's sparse estate. I am thinking strongly of getting a studio apartment early next year. But I feel guilty.

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Please don't feel guilty
by: Anonymous

There is nothing for you to feel guilty about.
You need your own space and time to yourself too.

You would be much happier and better able to handle things if you had your own place.

Good luck.

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Moving Without Feeling Guilty
by: sylvie

Don't feel guilty, you need your sanity too. Just make sure you go and visit your mother at least twice a week.

I just moved out of my parents house on the weekend, my mind is at ease now , and I am not so stressed.

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