Going, Going, Gone!
(Old El Paso)
I think something is seriously wrong with our society today. I have a Mom who has serious Alzheimer's and we took care of her in her own home for years until she became combative and needed round the clock care.
I work full time and have a family with kids still in school and I still make time to go see my Mom. We have her in a pretty nice facility that specializes in Alzheimer's care but I still have all kinds of anxiety about her not in her own home to this day.
It's been over a year now and I still have to get myself ready to see her in this place. The job as caregiver has not ended at all. I still come every night with a good hot meal for her so I know she has something good to eat. The food there is not the greatest sometimes.
The staff all know me and my other sibling and seem truly astounded that we are this dedicated since they say a lot of people just dump off their parent and forget about them.
What troubles me these days is my coworkers and friends who tell me I'm sick in the head and need to get a life. I'm not mentally ill, I love my Mom. One of my close friends in particular said that her life is over so just live yours. She won't know if you came or not so why bother?
I am sick inside when I hear these cruel things being said. My Mom was the best Mom in the world to all of us kids and there wasn't anything she wouldn't have done for us. How then, pray tell can I abandon her in her darkest hour?
My husband and children know they are loved and they also know this won't go on forever because people don't live a long time with this illness at the later stages. Why oh why can't my friends and colleagues understand that you need to protect and care for your parents when they no longer have a voice in this cruel world we now live in today.
Isn't it said that a society is judged on how we treat the poorest of the poor and our elderly? Well if that is the case then shame on us for thinking a person is as disposable as a used diaper!
We should show them the respect they deserve and some love and concern. What's so wrong with wanting to be there?