Getting Out

by Janice
(Milford, MI.)

2yrs ago my dad passed. I've lived with both the past 16 years to help them. my 92 year old mom is now telling everyone she does everything by herself and i don't do anything for her. i listed over 14 things i assist or do for her. I am thinking of moving out and have my 2 siblings start assisting her needs.

she treats me like a kid, I am 70!!!, and complains about everything i say or do. i am also engaged and my fiance wont live with us.

he has had it with her ways too, we take her everywhere we go and do everything for her and she still complains. she is very possessive of her house, her kitchen, her garage.

she seems to hate me being there now that dad's gone and i found someone. i don't have too much longer to enjoy my life and want to get married soon and start my own home.

she wont move to assisted care and I am tired of being taken advantage of by rest of family.

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Go for it!!!
by: Anonymous

Since you have a fiance' and a plan and your mom seems to not want you there I vote GO! If mom thinks she can handle everything then let her. My mom did that to me for a while, until she realized she can't.

Fortunately she IS in an assisted living. (my mom is legally blind.) Recently she wanted to change banks but didn't want me to be on her accounts because she "wanted to have (her) own money". (It's her money anyway, I just manage it.)

Anyway, when the bank told her I couldn't write checks on her account or tell them what to do with her accounts she came to realize she had to put me on the accounts and that she needs me. Was a bit eye-opening for her I guess.

She's also seen about 5 of the residents at the assisted living suddenly pass, so I think she's seeing her mortality (she will be 89 in May). But again, I vote you go get your life going! Your mom doesn't seem to appreciate you, so what's the harm in you taking care of you?? Hugs, and best of luck to you!

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