Frustrated

My dad recently passed and my mom fell and broke her back and has hydrocephalus....it has affected her thinking and walking. She is having surgery soon for shunt placement and in the meantime she is home. There are caregivers that come in and take care of her M-F with assistance from myself and siblings.


My sister lives across the street from Mom and goes over every night to help her to bed. My sister has taken it upon herself to do EVERYTHING and I have offered to help but she wants to do everything but then gets mad because she is doing everything.

I set up Mom's medications and try to help with the medical aspect of care but my sister gets mad about that too. I'm damned if I do or don't. My sister is a control freak. I'm at my wits end....we got into another fight tonight. What do I need to do?

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Sister is a control freak
by: Hope

Your mother is going to need lots of care for a while. One care taker usually burns out in time. You will get a chance to take care of your Mom.

Your sister needs to be the primary care taker for now and does not need you. Save your energy for later.

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I wish
by: Bittersweet

I wish I had a sibling like yours. I have 3 siblings that are useless. I do it all and I wish I didn't have to.

Maybe there are other areas where you could lend assistance...maybe grocery shopping, laundry, housekeeping....etc.

Your sister wants to monitor the health care arena and that's fine. You can help with numerous other things. Even if it's just to keep your mom company......which is far more than I get from my siblings.

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